In Module 2 we created a vision for what you want your life to be like in 2017.
CONGRATULATIONS! Having your vision will help to propel you forward into making it all happen for you.
You may be feeling that it is totally attainable and have no resistant thoughts or emotions to it at all.
Or, if you have stretched your limits in your vision, a little or a lot, you may be experiencing some resistance and a hesitance that some or all of it will actually manifest. These are the obstacles that could get you off track and what the Resolution Obstacle Buster program is designed to help you to identify and overcome.
The EFT/Tapping will help you release this resistance and open up new possibilities. The key is to use EFT consistently throughout your day any time you are thinking negative thoughts like “I can’t”, “I don’t”, “It’s not”, “That won’t”, “I’m not”, “I would, but”.
Notice those thoughts. Go back to Module 1 and review the exercises in numbers 6 and 7 in The Plan to help you understand how to pay attention to them and what you can do during your tapping to reduce their effect on you.
What are obstacles?
An obstacle is defined as “something that interferes with or prevents action or progress”.
Common obstacles to resolutions can be:
Lack of time,
Lack of commitment,
Lack of organization,
Lack of self-confidence,
Lack of money or resources,
Self-sabotaging thoughts and actions,
All of these and more chip away at enthusiasm and motivation.
What you can do to cope with obstacles:
Brainstorm all of the obstacles.
To overcome your obstacles to success, you first need to identify them. Brainstorm everything you can think of, not only from previous experiences, but what you might foresee as being a barrier. These can be the criticism from certain people, finding the time, lack of self-esteem and self-confidence, feeling lik you don’t deserve what you want, distractions (either internally or externally), lack of resources, excuses, stressors, fears, doubts, lack of self-control. Write it all down and keep adding as you go through your day and become aware of them. Once you are aware of what you are up against, you can take steps to bust through them.
Categorize the obstacles.
Obstacles fall into one of three categories.
Direct Control – Prioritize by the easiest to address.
These are factors that you can control because you are making decisions, taking initiative, getting training and support like what this program provides.
Some obstacles can be alleviated via the steps outlined in the plan that you prepared in Module 1 . If you have not created a plan, please go back to Module 1 and complete those steps. It will help you to narrow your focus, set realistic/specific goals, define small steps to take and decide on a time frame to reach each step and goal.
Here are some day-to-day things that you have control over:
What you eat.
What you buy.
How nice you are to yourself.
How quickly you try again after you fail.
What commitments you keep and cancel.
The effort you put into each step of your plan.
Whether you think positive or negative thoughts.
How you react to the people and events around you.
Each facet of your plan and what you decide to do and when.
Who you associate with. (Will you choose people and places that are supportive or those that will lead you away from your goal?)
Every decision you make of every day.
And dozens more.
Influence – Prioritize by the greatest impact you can have.
When you have influence, you have some part in guiding an outcome by your advice and input but do not have absolute control.
One area that you may not have total control over is the time that you can dedicate to your resolution. Joining a gym, support group or even doing this program may require you to coordinate the time needed with others. This could be a boss, spouse or a buddy that shares your resolution.
No control – Be aware but ignore these things.
Some obstacles may be out of your control. You cannot control what others say, do or think, the weather or the past.
Put the obstacles that you brainstormed under the appropriate category heading so that you will know what you do or do not have control over.
Remove the obstacles that you have no control over.
If you know you have no control over something – let it go. There is nothing you can do about it so take it off of your list. Once you do this, a burden will be lifted from you and you can then begin to see what you can control more clearly. It reduces the feeling of overwhelm that leads to stress which leads to you quitting your efforts. So, get rid of anything that you cannot control and stop dwelling on it.
Prioritize the obstacles that you have Influence and Direct Control over.
Take the list of obstacles that you created in your brainstorm session and prioritize the items that you have some influence or control over. Put the most important ones at the top. These would be the obstacles that you encounter the most often or that you have the best chance of controlling.
Create an action plan.
In Module 1 you were to create a plan for what to do to achieve your resolution. Depending on your concept of making a plan, it may have been very specific or perhaps more general. In either case, the next step is to get more specific.
Develop an action plan for each step in your plan. Decide who, what when and how. Who will help you or be involved in executing each step. What will you need – time, money, support, tools, appropriate clothing, weights/gym, a travel agent, recipes, calendar, classes, EFT? This may take some research but will be worth it because you will be taking action toward your end goal and that will help to keep you motivated.
Return to number 4 for the next obstacle.
Go through the same process for each of the obstacles you have listed in the “influence” and “direct control” categories. Create an action plan for each of them.
Lists are just lists. They can help you organize your thoughts but until you take action nothing is going to happen. Choose the most important, or maybe the easiest thing that you can do, and get going. Remember to pace yourself. You are not in a sprint race, but a long-term process. Think tortoise – not hare. A little bit of progress each day/week/month will give you much more satisfaction and motivation to keep going than burning yourself out with pressure, stress and too many commitments.
The purpose of this exercise is to identify and seek solutions. Once the list is made, refer to it when it is time to move on to the next step.
DO NOT dwell on the obstacles. Turn your attention to the solutions and the end goal of your resolution.
This is because attention to the obstacles can make them bigger and dominant, create resistance and encourage thoughts that what you desire is unachievable.
Conversely, attention to solutions promotes their importance and they become a powerful force that propels you forward.
In the absence of longing, in the absence of doubt—in the absence of obstacles and shortages and problems—will be the solutions and abundance that you seek. And the evidence of your Vibrational shift will become obvious in two ways: first, you will feel better; and next, physical evidence of … improvement will begin flowing to you from a variety of different directions. — Abraham
Do I really deserve this? The doubts and fears that sabotage you.
All of this talk about visions and taking the steps to make your dreams and resolution goals come true has probably caused some doubts and fears to surface.
This is the Head Game that you’ve played over and over again that has been one of your main obstacles throughout your entire life.
Obstacles primarily come from within.
These toxic thoughts come from within and turn us into our own worst enemies. But where do they come from?
Self-sabotaging doubts and fears come from what happens to us throughout our lives and how we react to these experiences. They involve decisions, and beliefs and once conceived, stick with us – unless we decide and believe differently.
Admittedly, changing the way you think about something is not an easy task. Usually a dramatic event needs to happen in order for you to change your mind and alter your beliefs.
But there is an easier, faster way: By first identifying where these doubts and fears originated, through the exercise below, then using EFT to reduce the intensity of your emotional reaction to the life experiences.
So, let’s get started.
The following exercise will help to identify how you really feel about reaching your goal.
Do I Deserve This?
Take a deep breath and let it out.
Close your eyes and think about your resolution. When you have a good vision of what you want, open your eyes.
Now write down these sentences.
“I deserve to _________________.” (Fill in your resolution.)
“I value myself enough to ___________________.” (Fill in your resolution.)
Say the sentences out loud and tune into how that feels to you. What emotions are you feeling?
Do you feel like you are not worthy, or is it fear, guilt or shame? Are you judging yourself or is someone else judging you?
Whatever emotions you are feeling, write them down.
Now say the sentences again. What are you feeling in your body? Where do you feel it? Does it have a shape, a color, a texture?
Write down the sensations you are feeling.
Now focus on the emotions and the body sensations and rate their intensity on a scale of 0-10 with 0 meaning it is not a problem at all and 10 meaning it’s the worst it could be.
Write down the intensity levels.
You may need to say the sentences more than once to fully understand your reactions.
Now use EFT and tap on each one of the emotions and the sensations in your body until your intensity level is at a 0.
(You may find that the shape, color and texture of your body sensation may change. This is perfectly normal because the tapping is releasing and shifting the energy in your body as the intensity of your emotions reduce and shift to other emotions.)
If you have difficulty reducing the intensity to a zero, then ask yourself; What does this feeling remind me of? When was there a time that I had the same emotions and feelings in my body? This will help you to identify one or more life experiences that originated the idea that you didn’t deserve what you wanted.
Write these events, emotions and body sensations down and rate their intensities, then continue using EFT to reduce the intensity levels to a 0.
Repeat this process as often as needed to pinpoint the times in your life and the emotional connections that have made you feel unworthy of reaching your resolution goals.
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If you signed up for the Buster Basic package and feel that you need assistance with this process you may pay the difference and upgrade to either the Bust a Lot or Bust a Lot More packages.
Banish Obstacles and Fears Script:
The first part of this script is to neutralize the negative thoughts and feelings around your doubts and fears. Continue doing the script over and over again until the intensity of how you feel about the emotions that surface are at least below a five. Then go to the positive statements in the second part.
The second part is to shift your thinking to positive aspects that dispel the doubts and fears.
Side of Hand: Even though I have all these doubts and fears, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. (Repeat 3 times.)
Eyebrow: I just don’t know if I can do this.
Side of Eye: I really would like to ____________. (Fill in your resolution.)
Under Eye: But I’m having my doubts.
Under Nose: I’m so afraid that I won’t be able to ____________. (Fill in your resolution.)
Chin: There are all these obstacles in my way.
Collarbone: I am so tempted to ____________. (Fill in what is tempting you.)
Under Arm: I am afraid if I give up now I will feel ____________. (Fill in the emotion.)
Top of Head: I will feel like a failure.
Eyebrow: Sometimes I feel like I can do this.
Side of Eye: Sometimes I feel completely stuck
Under Eye: Right now I am feeling ____________. (Fill in the emotion.)
Under Nose: So many doubts.
Chin: So many fears.
Collarbone: Change is hard.
Under Arm: These obstacles seem huge.
Top of Head: All of these doubts and fears.
Eyebrow: I told ____________ (Fill in names of people you told about your resolution.)
Side of Eye: What will they think of me if I quit?
Under Eye: I would be so embarrassed.
Under Nose: I would be humiliated.
Chin: I’m afraid to move forward.
Collarbone: I’m afraid to quit.
Under Arm: Sometimes I feel so stupid.
Top of Head: So many doubts and fears.
Take a deep breath and let it out slowly.
How are you feeling about the doubts and fears around your resolution? If the intensity of your emotions around it are below an intensity of a 5, then continue on to the positive statement script below and repeat it as often as needed to feel excited, motivated and ready to move on.
Eyebrow: I am moving on.
Side of Eye: Putting these negative thoughts behind me.
Under Eye: Everyone has obstacles.
Under Nose: Everyone gets stuck.
Chin: Time will sort it all out.
Collarbone: I choose to move past each obstacle one at a time.
Under Arm: There is no point in pushing against them.
Top of Head: That only gives them more power.
Eyebrow: I choose to focus on my vision.
Side of Eye: When I focus on my vision,
Under Eye: The solutions to my obstacles will be clear.
Under Nose: I am releasing these obstacles.
Chin: I see them easily and quietly fading away.
Collarbone: They are less important now.
Under Arm: What I desire is the most important.
Top of Head: I am on my way.
Take a deep breath and let it out slowly.
Be sure to drink water during and for the entire day after tapping just as you would after a massage or acupuncture treatment. Tapping helps you to release long held emotions and energy blockages in your body. The water assists the body in flushing these toxins out.
Christine Hunt hereafter known as “The Coach” is a Certified EFT Practitioner but not a medical professional. The information The Coach conveys during the Resolution Obstacle Buster program is primarily from her experience as an EFT Coach or from books, articles, newsletters and papers, written by medical professionals or experts in the health & wellness fields. Your participation in this program signifies your acceptance of complete and full responsibility in your use of this information and will in no way hold The Coach liable. The Coach cannot guarantee participants’ expected outcomes, from use of this information, since participants’ results will vary based on their diligence in applying the recommended work and the complexity of their life history. It is recommended that you consult a medical/psychological professional if you have any concerns.