To forgive, according to Webster’s Dictionary is “to give up resentment of or claim to requital for”.  In other words, to pardon.  We normally think of forgiveness in relation to forgiving another person for some wrong they have done toward us.   We may harbor anger toward them regardless of whether or not they apologized for their deeds.

But the most powerful form of forgiveness is for ourselves.  It is also the most difficult.  Because we know ourselves so well, and we remember all of the stupid things we have done throughout our lives, sometimes we hold the most anger toward ourselves.  The longer we hold onto the anger, the more damage it does to our health, relationships and peace of mind.

The article below  explains this concept  in more detail and gives you some ideas as to how you may begin the process of forgiving others and yourself.    I am the “clinician” that you would talk to to help you release the life-long baggage that may be hindering you in recognizable or unrecognizable ways.

Consider forgiveness as your resolution for 2015.

Christine Hunt


Learn to Forgive in 2015

Don’t carry grudges into the New Year …
By Jinnie Cristerna


Forgiveness is the key to peace of mind.What is forgiveness and what does it mean to forgive? The concept of forgiveness is timeless and has been around for thousands of years.

Forgiveness is a form of love and at the core of religious, spiritual, and clinical healing.

Forgiveness is a conscious and deliberate process that helps people heal from and let go of feelings like anger, grief, and sadness. It is when people truly forgive someone (or a group), they are free to move on to live a life full of love and joy.

Unfortunately, people often make the mistake of thinking that forgiveness means “What you did to me was OK.” That’s untrue.

Forgiveness does not mean that what someone did to you was OK. It means that you will no longer carry the pain of their actions anymore. You give it back to them to carry.

Forgiveness is easier said than done and is one of the most difficult things that anyone can do, especially the first few times. The pain of betrayal or loss can be so intense that the notion of choosing to love the person who caused or inflicted the pain goes against every natural instinct to want to hurt them back.


Forgiveness is a choice.


Forgiveness is not something that naturally occurs; which is why it is a conscious and deliberate process that a person chooses to engage. The fact that forgiveness is a choice also explains why it is so powerful and transforming.

When we choose to forgive, we choose to let go of anger, despair, and all of the other negative emotions that weigh us down. And, when we let go of all of the things that weigh us down, we have room to embrace the lighter, happier emotions such as love, joy, and peace.

A patient once asked me why she was having such a hard time forgiving someone even though she was making a conscious effort and working very hard to do so.

My reply: You haven’t forgiven yourself, yet.

Before we can love anyone else, we have to love ourselves. Before you can forgive anyone, we have to forgive yourself.

Look, when someone hurts you, it is very natural for you to feel anger, even hatred toward him or her. It doesn’t make you a bad person – it makes you human.

So, forgive yourself for hating someone and for having the thoughts you have. Forgive yourself for being human.

Let yourself cry and feel all of the emotions that are present. While some people may want to avoid the negative emotions, embracing them actually helps with letting go so you can forgive.


While there isn’t an absolute process to forgiveness, there are some things that you can do to help yourself move closer to forgiving someone.

1)   Mantras. “Even though I am angry with (or, even hate) you, I deeply and completely accept/forgive myself.”

2)   Write down what you are thinking and feeling. This will help you get some of it out so you can let go of the pain.

3)   Talk with a clinician. A seasoned therapist can really help you accept your feelings and move on with your life in a healthier and more grounded way.

When we don’t forgive others, or ourselves we create our own prison of resentment and only we hold the key. Holding on to anger is like taking poison and hoping the other person dies. You’re the only one who suffers.


Here, is one of my favorite (amended) short stories:

There was once a little boy who had gotten into an argument with his best friend. He stormed into the house angry and yelling. His grandfather stopped and asked why he was so upset and the little boy replied, “I am not his friend anymore! He broke my favorite toy and didn’t say he was sorry. I HATE HIM!”

The grandfather looked and said, “Ahhh … yes. I know of the hate you feel as I, too, have hated people that much. It is a fight that goes on inside of me.” The little boy looked at his grandfather with big eyes as tears rolled down his face, “You have?” “Yes”, said his grandfather. “What did you do?” Asked the little boy.

“Well, you see, inside of everyone are two wolves. One wolf is love and the other is anger. The loving wolf is full of joy, forgiveness, and abundance; but the angry wolf, oh my! He is full of hate, resentment and pain.”

The little boy paused for a moment, “Grandfather, if these two wolves fight inside of you, which one wins?

The grandfather replied, “The one that I feed.”


 Whatever your resolution, Hunt for Hope Wellness is the solution.


Christine Hunt is a Wellness Coach and Certified EFT Practitioner and has found that working with the whole person by combining mind/body work, dietary adjustments and movement provides her clients with the tools they need to heal their bodies, lose weight (and keep it off) and positively transform their lives.  Contact her for a free, 15 minute consultation to learn why what she does works when other methods have failed.




Christine Hunt

An experienced Wellness Coach, Certified EFT and Certified Matrix Reimprinting Practitioner, Christine Hunt gets results for her clients that conventional therapies cannot. She takes the whole person approach when working with her clients to help them lose weight, get relief from chronic illness & pain, trauma/PTSD and addictions of all kinds. She has been a Certified Practitioner since 2013 and has done hundreds of sessions helping her clients to uncover and remove the obstacles to their problems with weight, illness, pain, addictions, traumas, relationships, grief/loss and financial security opening doors to their personal fulfillment and happiness. Contact her for a free, 15 minute consultation to learn why what she does works when other methods have failed. Christine works with her clients in person, by Skype or phone.  So, if you live away from the Annapolis, Maryland area, she can still work with you.